In a world where “marriage counselling” has become the go-to solution for relationship problems, popular YouTuber and entrepreneur Wode Maya offers a provocative but thought-provoking perspective: young couples may be focusing on the wrong solution entirely.
According to him, the issue isn’t the absence of counselling it’s the choices people make before marriage.
Marriage counselling is often treated like an emergency room: when things break down, couples rush in hoping a third party will fix what’s wrong. But Wode Maya’s argument challenges this mindset. Counselling can help communication, yes but it cannot change values, character, or long-term compatibility.
If two people fundamentally want different things in life, no number of sessions will magically align them.
Many young couples ignore red flags early on financial irresponsibility, lack of respect, emotional immaturity, incompatible goals because they believe love will conquer all. When reality hits after marriage, counselling becomes the last resort.
Wode Maya’s advice is simple but uncomfortable:
do the hard work before marriage, not after.
Ask the difficult questions. Observe behavior, not promises. Pay attention to how conflicts are handled before legal and emotional commitments make walking away costly.
Counselling is most effective when two people already share strong values and mutual respect. It helps refine, not rebuild. Using counselling to “save” a marriage that was unstable from the start is like repairing a cracked foundation after the house is already built.
As Wode Maya puts it implicitly if not directly the smartest relationship decision isn’t finding the best counsellor; it’s choosing the right partner.
This isn’t an attack on marriage counselling. It’s a wake-up call. Counselling should be a tool, not a crutch. Young people should stop normalizing dysfunction and start normalizing discernment.
Love is important but clarity, compatibility, and character matter more in the long run.
Marriage counselling can improve a good marriage.
It cannot rescue a bad decision.
And that, perhaps, is the heart of Wode Maya’s advice to young couples:
Choose wisely so you won’t need rescuing later.
